Finding Balance: Big Stages, Band, and Family – GigGab 121

This episode is all about finding the right balance. First, how do you deal with it when you’re on a stage that’s too big for your band? Thankfully Paul and Dave have made the mistakes so you don’t have to. Then your two favorite weekend warriors dig into the mailbag to answer the question of balancing being a musician with being a productive member of a family. Neither of these balancing acts is easy, and Paul and Dave talk you through each as best they can. Press play and enjoy!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 121 – Monday, June 26, 2017
  • 00:01:06 Last week’s Paul Costley Interview
  • 00:02:12 Playing on a stage that’s too big
  • 00:05:35 Feeling comfortable … and then not so comfortable
  • 00:08:01 Dave’s Second Uptown Celebration Gig
  • 00:11:36 Rhythm Section Lock-in
  • 00:14:10 Bryan-Band/Life Balance
  • 00:16:52 My husband’s new hobby
  • 00:22:57 The groupie gone awry (Hi, Lisa!)
  • 00:23:58 Are your family members music fans?
  • 00:28:23 Beware the opposite sex
  • 00:29:51 “You’ll be gigging less when we get married… right?”
  • 00:30:36 I’m a musician, that’s who I am
  • 00:34:39 Own your situation
  • 00:35:58 Short gigs present opportunities
  • 00:36:20 Schedule family time
  • 00:42:02 Bail out gracefully if you’re miserable
  • 00:43:45 GG Outtro

Paul Costley, Booking Agent: Walking the Fine Line Between Rooms and Bands – GigGab 120

Paul CostleyEvery band deals with a booking agent at some point, and today that becomes true here at GigGab, too, as we welcome Paul Costley of Notso Costley Productions onto the show. Paul’s been playing in, managing, booking, and organizing bands since the 1970s, and has carved out a very successful booking business for himself in New England.

Yep, it’s a two-Pauls-and-one-Dave show as your two favorite weekend warriors listen to advice about working with a booking agent, managing relationships with various clubs, and what representation with a booking agent does – and doesn’t – bring you. Take a listen, then send in your questions to us at Enjoy!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 120 – Monday, June 19, 2017
  • 00:01:52 Paul Costley from Notso Costley Productions
  • 00:02:38 Started with a restaurant
  • 00:04:01 …and then went to just booking
  • 00:05:24 Who do you book?
  • 00:06:51 Our job is to entertain the people in your room
  • 00:10:20 Your band is your business
  • 00:11:36 Walking the fine line between rooms and bands
  • 00:13:40 Develop relationships with owners on top of managers
  • 00:15:40 “We’d love to have you represent us!”
  • 00:16:49 Start playing with younger people
  • 00:17:55 Send me a couple of YouTube clips
  • 00:18:40 Use an open night
  • 00:19:42 Your success is your song list
  • 00:20:24 What about the look?
  • 00:22:02 It’s all about understanding the venue
  • 00:23:57 Venue micromanagement
  • 00:25:57 How to attract (or turn away) a booking agents
    • Make a name for yourself and let the booking agents come to you
  • 00:29:20 How pesty is too pesty
  • 00:31:12 Feedback from clubs
  • 00:33:42 ASCAP/BMI/CESAC is Causing Attrition
  • 00:36:17 GG Outtro

Isolate the Distractions – GigGab 119

How close is your band? Can you tell each other everything? How about at vocal rehearsals? These are the questions that your two favorite weekend warriors start with today. Then it’s into contracts. Pay attention to the minutia, folks, because it might not be minutia to other people. Then it’s on to the cost of playing in multiple projects. Really, it’s all about isolating the distractions, and that’s what Paul and Dave focus on today!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 119 – Monday, June 12, 2017
  • 00:01:12 Gig mayhem
  • 00:03:39 Travel tips!
  • 00:06:08 The benefits of vocal rehearsals
  • 00:09:29 What about listening to tape… together?
  • 00:15:00 Pointing out mistakes
  • 00:16:20 Learning to gel as a band
  • 00:18:29 Contracts
  • 00:22:23 Pet Peeves
  • 00:27:41 Charting
  • 00:30:34 Musicians in multiple bands
  • 00:32:57 Isolate the distractions

The Comfort of Being on Stage – GigGab 118

couch on a stageYour two weekend warriors are on the same coast, within miles of each other, so what do they do? Record a podcast remotely like they always do! After all, that’s what they’re comfortable doing, and the best performances come from a place of comfort.

Speaking of that, Paul and Dave spend some time talking about how oddly-comforting it feels being up on stage. That separation from the audience can be one of the safest feelings to a musician.

Before that, though, Dave had his first gig with Uptown Celebration, so that gets discussed. Paul discusses a gig at that club where the audience is a little too close to the “stage”, and your two self-absorbed podcasters discuss the pitfalls of interacting with self-absorbed fans.

All this and more… just press play and enjoy!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 118 – Monday, June 5, 2017
  • 00:02:07 Lineup Changes
  • 00:09:06 Dave’s first gig with Uptown Celebration
  • 00:13:46 Having a dedicated sound engineer
  • 00:17:32 Picking songs for the lead singer
  • 00:19:56 Stage Ninja
  • 00:23:57 Managing
  • 00:25:00 Audience members pitching themselves to your band
  • 00:27:48 I can’t pretend a stranger is a long-awaited friend
  • 00:32:58 Self-absorbed fans
  • 00:33:50 Learning requests… for a fee
  • 00:36:38 Learning requests… on the fly!
  • 00:38:07 The magic of shared musical DNA
  • 00:39:38 The safety of the stage
  • 00:42:24 GG Outtro

It Ain’t Bragging If You Can Back It Up! – GigGab 117

band in front of festival crowd viewed from behindYour two favorite weekend warriors have been GigGabbing for almost two-and-a-half years, and the time has come to take a little stock in the action. What have Paul and Dave learned? How have their musical lives changed since the inception of the show, and what changes do they anticipate in the near term?

It’s not all introspective, though, folks. There are some solid lessons to learn in this episode, specifically about dealing with multi-band gigs where you need to share a single stage with several other bands. How do you deal with it? What’s the protocol? And how do you make sure you can put your best foot forward in what’s inevitably going to be a non-optimal scenario?


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 117 – Monday, May 30, 2017
  • 00:00:43 Gig Craziness!
  • 00:03:37 Will the theater stuff ever wane?
  • 00:06:07 Don’t be a pesty theater parent!
  • 00:09:37 Festival-style, multi-band gigs
  • 00:13:16 Which gigs do you decline?
  • 00:14:20 Always be fighting for the best situation for you/your band
  • 00:15:09 It ain’t bragging if you can back it up!
  • 00:15:57 Managing the stage with a shared bill
  • 00:20:37 Lessons from GigGab – Dave
  • 00:24:22 The balancing act
  • 00:26:30 Lessons from GigGab – Paul
  • 00:28:34 Interview reflections
  • 00:30:20 Relatability
  • 00:33:38 Shared therapy!

Musical Snobbery – GigGab 116

a pair of glasses, a mustache and a pair of headphones, and the word hipster on a beige backgroundWhat happens when you or someone else starts the wrong song in the set? How do you handle a packed schedule full of multiple rehearsals and gigs in the same day? And how do you deal with a fellow musician who mocks what you do?

These are the questions that your two favorite weekend warriors answer. Heck, they don’t just answer them, they live them. And they gab about them, GigGab style. Press play and enjoy!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 116 – Monday, May 22, 2017
  • 00:01:11 Musical Snobbery
  • 00:08:11 What happens when you put a music snob into the snobbiest music?
  • 00:10:28 What songs do you perform?
  • 00:11:48 The song pipeline
  • 00:17:03 Sonos
  • 00:19:45 Four gigs in 36 hours!
  • 00:26:08 Proper preparation leads to … Great gigs!
  • 00:29:17 Band allegiances
  • 00:32:15 You skipped a song!
  • 00:39:05 GG Outtro

Soft Silicone, Hard Acrylic, and Managing a Trio – GigGab 115

One quick glance at the title and you know this isn’t your average GigGab episode. Thankfully, we’re not that shallow… it is very much your normal GigGab episode. In fact, we dig into every aspect: the touchy feely? Covered. Gear? Covered. Practical how-to-style lessons? Covered! All of this, and more, just as you’ve come to expect each and every time to press “Play” to listen to Paul and Dave. There’s nothing to be afraid of here. Just do it!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 115 – Monday, May 15, 2017
  • 00:01:27 The Beauty of a Trio
  • 00:04:45 Uptown Rehearsal tonight
  • 00:07:39 Here’s your job!
  • 00:09:36 What’s your style in the band?
  • 00:16:13 Weird Drum Parts
  • 00:17:29 Touch Matters!
  • 00:19:34 Learning Lyrics
  • 00:24:35 Forgetting Lyrics
  • 00:25:03 Dan-IEMs: Soft Silicone or Hard Acrylic?
  • 00:29:12 Slacking the love – Loving the Slack
  • 00:34:09 GG Outtro

Exploring the Drummer’s Vantage Point – GigGab 114

Drummers always seem to have a different perspective, and perhaps that’s because they literally have a different place from which they view a gig. If there’s a theme to this episode, that’s certainly a contender! Double-bookings happen, though, and Dave found himself in that scenario. He and Paul talk through what to do in that situation. To start, though, a quick conversation about trusting your crew. That’s an important element in the enjoyment of a gig. All of this just one click away. Press play and enjoy!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 114 – Monday, May 8, 2017
  • 00:03:39 How much sound gear is enough?
  • 00:06:30 Get to the gig… and it’s double-booked!
  • 00:13:23 Fighting for your guys!
  • 00:19:33 Drummer’s Vantage Point
  • 00:26:45 Line of sight to everyone
  • 00:27:35 Who has the baton?
  • 00:30:28 Four hour gigs?
  • 00:32:07 Managing the weather
  • 00:34:00 Sitting in!
  • 00:34:48 Those “Nirvana Days”
  • 00:36:22 Always Be Performing!

Can Anyone Hear the Elephant on the Stage? – GigGab 113

elephant with an electric guitar and a microphoneIt’s time to get pensive, folks. First, your two favorite weekend warriors discuss the “poison in the locker room” mentality that often is the precursor to a band-wide bitch-session. Then it’s on to the aftermath of the bitch-sesh that eventually leads to someone asking, “why do we do this gig, anyway?” That’s a valid question to ask, as long as you ask it of the right person. Paul and Dave will guide you on this. Lastly, it’s all about elephants, and that’s all we’re going to tell you. Press play for more, on GigGab!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 113 – Monday, May 1, 2017
  • 00:01:17 The emotional waver of giggings
  • 00:04:52 Poison in the locker room
  • 00:08:44 Communication leads to confidence
  • 00:10:51 How tactful is too tactful?
  • 00:14:46 The gig gets weird
  • 00:15:10 The frustration of that for which you’re not responsible
  • 00:20:52 Dealing with playing a rough gig
  • 00:24:20 The risks and benefits of Bitch-sessions
  • 00:29:00 Can we still have any fun?
  • 00:31:04 Can anyone hear the elephant in the room?

The 1990s Conundrum – GigGab 112

The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame has some new members, and it’s time your two favorite weekend warriors discuss that! Then listener Ted has some questions about his snare drum sound, and Paul and Dave give some help his way. Lastly, there’s a thread that runs through today’s episode: The 1990s produced some music. Some of that music is great, most is forgettable. Is that any different from any other generation?