Finding Balance: Big Stages, Band, and Family – GigGab 121

This episode is all about finding the right balance. First, how do you deal with it when you’re on a stage that’s too big for your band? Thankfully Paul and Dave have made the mistakes so you don’t have to. Then your two favorite weekend warriors dig into the mailbag to answer the question of balancing being a musician with being a productive member of a family. Neither of these balancing acts is easy, and Paul and Dave talk you through each as best they can. Press play and enjoy!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 121 – Monday, June 26, 2017
  • 00:01:06 Last week’s Paul Costley Interview
  • 00:02:12 Playing on a stage that’s too big
  • 00:05:35 Feeling comfortable … and then not so comfortable
  • 00:08:01 Dave’s Second Uptown Celebration Gig
  • 00:11:36 Rhythm Section Lock-in
  • 00:14:10 Bryan-Band/Life Balance
  • 00:16:52 My husband’s new hobby
  • 00:22:57 The groupie gone awry (Hi, Lisa!)
  • 00:23:58 Are your family members music fans?
  • 00:28:23 Beware the opposite sex
  • 00:29:51 “You’ll be gigging less when we get married… right?”
  • 00:30:36 I’m a musician, that’s who I am
  • 00:34:39 Own your situation
  • 00:35:58 Short gigs present opportunities
  • 00:36:20 Schedule family time
  • 00:42:02 Bail out gracefully if you’re miserable
  • 00:43:45 GG Outtro

Paul Costley, Booking Agent: Walking the Fine Line Between Rooms and Bands – GigGab 120

Paul CostleyEvery band deals with a booking agent at some point, and today that becomes true here at GigGab, too, as we welcome Paul Costley of Notso Costley Productions onto the show. Paul’s been playing in, managing, booking, and organizing bands since the 1970s, and has carved out a very successful booking business for himself in New England.

Yep, it’s a two-Pauls-and-one-Dave show as your two favorite weekend warriors listen to advice about working with a booking agent, managing relationships with various clubs, and what representation with a booking agent does – and doesn’t – bring you. Take a listen, then send in your questions to us at Enjoy!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 120 – Monday, June 19, 2017
  • 00:01:52 Paul Costley from Notso Costley Productions
  • 00:02:38 Started with a restaurant
  • 00:04:01 …and then went to just booking
  • 00:05:24 Who do you book?
  • 00:06:51 Our job is to entertain the people in your room
  • 00:10:20 Your band is your business
  • 00:11:36 Walking the fine line between rooms and bands
  • 00:13:40 Develop relationships with owners on top of managers
  • 00:15:40 “We’d love to have you represent us!”
  • 00:16:49 Start playing with younger people
  • 00:17:55 Send me a couple of YouTube clips
  • 00:18:40 Use an open night
  • 00:19:42 Your success is your song list
  • 00:20:24 What about the look?
  • 00:22:02 It’s all about understanding the venue
  • 00:23:57 Venue micromanagement
  • 00:25:57 How to attract (or turn away) a booking agents
    • Make a name for yourself and let the booking agents come to you
  • 00:29:20 How pesty is too pesty
  • 00:31:12 Feedback from clubs
  • 00:33:42 ASCAP/BMI/CESAC is Causing Attrition
  • 00:36:17 GG Outtro

Isolate the Distractions – GigGab 119

How close is your band? Can you tell each other everything? How about at vocal rehearsals? These are the questions that your two favorite weekend warriors start with today. Then it’s into contracts. Pay attention to the minutia, folks, because it might not be minutia to other people. Then it’s on to the cost of playing in multiple projects. Really, it’s all about isolating the distractions, and that’s what Paul and Dave focus on today!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 119 – Monday, June 12, 2017
  • 00:01:12 Gig mayhem
  • 00:03:39 Travel tips!
  • 00:06:08 The benefits of vocal rehearsals
  • 00:09:29 What about listening to tape… together?
  • 00:15:00 Pointing out mistakes
  • 00:16:20 Learning to gel as a band
  • 00:18:29 Contracts
  • 00:22:23 Pet Peeves
  • 00:27:41 Charting
  • 00:30:34 Musicians in multiple bands
  • 00:32:57 Isolate the distractions

The Comfort of Being on Stage – GigGab 118

couch on a stageYour two weekend warriors are on the same coast, within miles of each other, so what do they do? Record a podcast remotely like they always do! After all, that’s what they’re comfortable doing, and the best performances come from a place of comfort.

Speaking of that, Paul and Dave spend some time talking about how oddly-comforting it feels being up on stage. That separation from the audience can be one of the safest feelings to a musician.

Before that, though, Dave had his first gig with Uptown Celebration, so that gets discussed. Paul discusses a gig at that club where the audience is a little too close to the “stage”, and your two self-absorbed podcasters discuss the pitfalls of interacting with self-absorbed fans.

All this and more… just press play and enjoy!


  • 00:00:00 GigGab 118 – Monday, June 5, 2017
  • 00:02:07 Lineup Changes
  • 00:09:06 Dave’s first gig with Uptown Celebration
  • 00:13:46 Having a dedicated sound engineer
  • 00:17:32 Picking songs for the lead singer
  • 00:19:56 Stage Ninja
  • 00:23:57 Managing
  • 00:25:00 Audience members pitching themselves to your band
  • 00:27:48 I can’t pretend a stranger is a long-awaited friend
  • 00:32:58 Self-absorbed fans
  • 00:33:50 Learning requests… for a fee
  • 00:36:38 Learning requests… on the fly!
  • 00:38:07 The magic of shared musical DNA
  • 00:39:38 The safety of the stage
  • 00:42:24 GG Outtro